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As parents, we must keep in mind the purpose of raising our kids. We are responsible for loving and protecting them. We are also responsible for teaching them and disciplining them. Children need guidance. That guidance starts at home. Teaching children that adults are to respect them first, adults are to bow down to them and/or they are not obligated to respect or obey an adult - will only hurt them in the future.
Eventually, our kids will be working adults. Some will be employees while others will be managers and owners. Either way they all will have to work with other people. If they are taught early on to only respect and obey the people that they only choose to - then they will have many more obstacles in life.
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![]() NOT every step parent wants to be deeply involved with raising their partner's kids from previous relationships. (Now, before you jump to conclusions, read the post in its entirety). I have been on both ends of the spectrum when it comes to my level of involvement. My level of involvement seems to have reduced from my prior relationship to my current one. There are lots of factors that make the situations TOTALLY different. I, for one, believe in supporting my partner. I am not trying to replace a parent, be a third parent or compete with a parent. I simply support my partner's needs to ensure he is the best father he can be. I do not build relationships with the mother, I do not co-parent with her and I definitely do NOT share her motherly duties/responsibilities. At the end of the day, it's their child and to avoid unnecessary conflicts, I limit my level of involvement. I simply can not assist with raising a child (or children) who is (are) being raised "differently". I will end with - Respect and Obedience isn't taught to everyone. The images on this post are from: https://www.pinterest.com/pin/5066618307814249/
There is this weird misconception that co-parenting can not work.
There is this weird misconception that if parents still get along after their relationship ends, then one or the other has to have feelings for the other person. Those misconceptions may be true at times - but NOT always. For example, my kids father and I learned how to communicate better as co-parents. Much better than we did when we lived under the same roof. I was able to see and appreciate just how much his time and commitment to his children helped with the parenting process. Let's face it - All fathers that live in the household are not Present! Thank God, that wasn't my case. Now, on the flip side.... There is this misconception that in order for a parent to take care of his child, he/she must help financially support the other parent. There is this misconception that if the parents are not together, then one can not grow (spiritually, financially, or as a person) without helping the other parent. Listen, when the relationship ends, all of the benefits and perks of being in the relationship (as a mate) ends. Your child(ren)'s other parent is not responsible for your happiness nor your finances (outside of appropriate support for their child(ren). I know life happens and we all may need someone to "lean on"... Don't let the other parent be that someone. He/She is not to blame. If he/she is fortunate to assist AND they choose to do so - Great! But, don't let that be your only "back up plan". Don't hold that person responsible for your happiness or finances. At some point in life, I believe all parents will think they have failed this thing called parenting. That is the point where we decide to continue on with our same rules, traditions, forms of discipline OR we make some changes. Years ago, I came to conclusion that I can never be the perfect Mom. I simply committed to doing the best I know how and improve in the areas I believed I needed to improve upon. As long as I can look back years from now and KNOW for certain, I was the best Mom – that I could be – That’s alright with me! |
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