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![]() October 2017 is coming to an end. This month and year is officially in my book of life. The number 10/17 means so much to me. It was the day I was placed on earth and I cherish that number. I began the tradition to celebrate ME during my entire birth month, some time ago. Even when others did not celebrate with me, I still celebrated. I plan to continue on with this tradition until I take my last breath. This year I decided to commemorate my birth month in a different way. I decided to "blog a bit". I decided to share some of my random thoughts and my non-traditional perspective on a few topics. For those of you that reviewed my blogs, I hope you have enjoyed them. Thanks for celebrating this month with me. 10/17
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![]() Every year I go through an evaluation process. I evaluate how close or far I am from my intermediate, short term, and long term goals. I usually set several goals in several areas of my life. I am not always pleased with the progress, but I am damn sure determined to make progress. Some years I have to dedicate more time to some things over others. For instance, the past three years I have spent more time on pursing my educational goal of completing my doctorate in education while spending less time on my health and weight loss goals. I am okay with this shift because I know I will be able to focus more on my health and weight loss goals, soon. Yet, the longer I take the harder it will be to reach my health and weight loss goals. Which means when the time comes, I must shift my focus and be more dedicated than before to achieving those goals. I have conducted my annual evaluation process for 2017. I am more pleased with my progress than I have been in years. I changed careers three years ago and made a transition to another position within my current field. I am complete with all of my coursework for my doctorate degree (it only took 2.5 years) and I have begun the research and writing process for my dissertation. I have redefined my role in other's lives. I have made a lot of progress on who I am as a person and my purpose for others. I have set new intermediate and short term goals for the year. My long term goals (from 3 years ago) have evolved as well. 2018 will be "The Year of Dell" Have you ever known someone that no matter how much they have in life - it is NEVER enough?
I am referring to that person that no matter how good things are they have to keep pushing the limits. Then, he/she realizes just how great they HAD it, once it is too late. If you know that person and you shake your head at them - then don't become that person. Every once in a while, you have to unplug from the world and take an assessment. Quit taking people and "favor" for granted. If you are that person and you like taking a "gamble" - go right ahead... Just remember that the "house" usually comes out ahead. ![]() If you keep doing the same thing over and over - then you should expect the same results. There is nothing like taking a breath of fresh air. My man once told me that dating me was like a "breath of fresh air". He's not a man of many words and when he does speak - it's usually his truth. It took me a minute to understand what he meant by the phrase. He doesn't speak on past relationships but his actions and expectations of a "woman" spoke volumes in the beginning of our relationship. Yet, it didn't take long for me to realize that he was my breath of fresh air, as well. You see, we often become accustomed to how people treat us in relationships. We tend to think that "this" is what all relationships are like. Sometimes we select the same person over and over again, in a different body. We began to expect certain behavior(s) from our partner. Then, if you're lucky enough, this person comes along and opens your eyes to a different type of behavior. All men are not the same, neither are women. And when you get that "breath of fresh air" , then you know it's real. Every year there seems to be a growing number of high school graduates that pursue their college dreams. There are college initiatives and programs aimed to assist students that transition to college, yet there is still a high rate of college drop-outs and freshmen with low academic performance. So, what is the solution?
Of course there is no single solution to this problem, but I believe that earlier interventions at the high school level are necessary. There should be workshops and initiatives aimed to assist students that plan to transition to college. Many students, especially minority students and students that are first-generation students have never stepped foot on a college campus - let alone do they know what to expect when they arrive to campus. All of the welcome videos and college virtual tours, CAN NOT prepare a student for what they will need to be successful in college. It's time for a focus on college preparation to happen at the high school level. Preparation beyond academics. Preparation that includes the skills needed, the best practices and how to find resources at the college the student attends. I've noticed a trend of students starting college and not persisting past the first year. Many of the challenges they face are: lack of family support, poor time management, ineffective study habits and lack of preparation. The road to college completion can be improved for those students that are under prepared. IT'S TIME! Let's face it - most people do not "grow" out of their character. Most people do not complete a full 180 in a lifetime. Instead they do a 360 and go right back to who they always were.
Some of us grew up with parents and relatives that were: petty, manipulative, two-faced, habitual liars, sluts, whores, and so on. It was a norm for us until we learned differently. Yet, some of us took on theses characteristics and others despise them and strive to do better. I say all of this to say: NO ONE grows too old to be who they are. Whores will be whores, just as habitual liars will continue to be habitual liars. Change comes will acceptance of ones flaws, acknowledgement of ones flaws, desire to change, and action! So let go of the phrase, "Isn't he/she old to still act like that" followed by "I thought he/she would have grown out of that by now". Today was a day that I was reminded NOT to doubt myself.
I can accomplish anything I put my mind to. #GoalAchiever There are people that will compete with you and you are not aware that there is a competition going on.
How can you compete in a race you never began? How can you compete in a race that you have already completed and moved on from? It's comical when comparisons are made between people that are NOT COMPARABLE. When they can't beat you NOR join you - they will make up their own competition. And their supporters will cheer them on. I do not compete with any one - never have and never will. I set my own personal goals. I have always set out to accomplish things others say are impossible. I defy odds and set bars. There are a lot of terms that are interchanged - but do not mean the same.
Phony = Being polite. Example: Telling everyone that a baby is awkward looking but telling the parents - "Aww she is so cute" Blunt = Shady Example: "I do not care to be around Stacy because she is negative". Honest = Hating/Jealous Example: "He is not attractive, to me." If you are "being polite" and you make a statement opposite of your belief - YOU ARE A LIAR. One can not be blunt and shady, at the same time. The shady person is usually the one that reads into the blunt person's statement. Lastly, everyone's opinion of people, places or things are NOT the same. Just because someone doesn't like someone or something the same as you - does not mean they are hating or jealous. You only live once and you can't please everybody while you are here. So why even try? I say to hell with those that don't appreciate you within your time and to hell with those that are too hard to please. If you spend your life trying to please and make everyone else happy - who will please you?
By no means am I suggesting that you should be selfish or self-centered. All I am saying is do not waste time altering who you are to please others. Yes, we all have things we can improve, but unless you have an unhealthy habit or cause harm to others - do not change who you are to please others. Surround yourself with people that can understand who you are and support you - as you are. I be damned if I spend my only life trying to please others. I believe Y.O.L.O. so, DO YOU! |
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