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![]() I have always been adamant that you do not always have to forget in order to forgive. I can forgive people for wrongdoings, or I can forget them (the person) totally for their wrongdoings. I do not agree with the concept that you MUST forgive and forget in order to heal. Heal for who? You or the perpetrator? Yet, people tell me time and time again - I must do both to truly let go... So, let me get this right - you can tell me how I feel? (But that's another story - back to the topic at hand). I recently saw a clip of Steve Harvey's show where the guests were speaking on their ability to forgive after being done wrong. One of the guests made the most profound statements. She stated "I can forgive you for having an accident in my car. But, it doesn't mean I have to trust you with my keys again." This is truly how I feel when I forgive people for wrongdoings. I can truly forgive you for doing me wrong and we can move past it. That does not mean I have to give you the same amount of trust again. With me, I either forgive you and we both move forward or I erase (forget) you. I can be in a room with a person that I was once closely associated with and not say one word to them. Some people think that's harsh, I feel as though I have moved on. There is no need to keep revisiting the same people or similar situations with those people. There is no need for me to fake a smile or force a cordial conversation. I just do not believe in putting my energy into that. The bottom line is: WITH ME, there are some wrongdoings I can forgive and move forward and others I chose to eliminate the person from my life, all together. I am not "holding on" to anything. I completely let go. And I am fine when people choose to do the same to me. If I do something to a person and they must let me go to move forward peacefully in their life, I am fine with that. In my unsolicited opinion, if more people let go instead of trying to rebuild, they will be less stressed, less disappointed (again) and can spend that time and energy elsewhere.
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