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![]() Time and time again, I see people posting memes and videos of what a good man/woman is. I have even seen some posts that says "You don't have to tell a real man..., because a real man will..." When I see those posts, I think, 'But isn't that precisely what you're trying to do?' You're trying to subliminally convince your mate of how to be a good/real man. Usually, these same people who are making these posts and sharing this information, is wasting time on trying to coach up their mate. Since they know the definition of a good man and a real man, they should be able to easily identify if their mate or perspective mate fits the bill of what you identify as a real man. So, you mean to tell me - they waste all of this time (in which they will never get back) with men who are not real men? They have babies, and at times even share residences with these men who do not have the characteristics of a real man? And the same works for men who participate in this behavior. Why spend time trying to convince someone to be a good/real mate for you? When you can spend that same time dating or getting to know other people. I believe in spending my time and energy wisely. I refuse to waste my time and energy on people who don't deserve it. But, I guess there are those who like "coaching up" their mate and have that time to invest in him/her. Yet, when/if that person gets there - they usually don't want the person who waited on them. I've seen it happen time and time again. They usually want more for themselves. They want more in a mate. They have transformed and even their values of their mate and their perspectives on relationships change. So, my unsolicited advice is" IF HE (or SHE) DOESN'T FIT (your relationship goals), YOU MUST QUIT wasting your damn time."
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Dacole
11/20/2018 11:52:29 am
Hi, I think your point of view on women setting “gender norms” for their mate is on point. There are a few question I often ask myself when I hear a woman use the phrase” real men” Did she grow up with a father? Is she bitter? I’m a firm believer in taking people at face value. If you don’t think the person you are dating is for you then move on. So I agree with stop wasting your time trying to convince someone (he or she) to be the ideal mate for you.
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