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"But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don't teach boys the same?"
- Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Better yet, why do (some) mothers teach their daughters that their husbands are to be providers and protectors; but, expect their sons to not be that to their wives? Why would your son's wife be less deserving than your daughter as a wife or even yourself? These are questions I asked an older lady just the other day as she was admitting to not liking her daughter-in-law. She was never pleased with her since the day she met her. She couldn't explain why. She stated "It's just something about her". I asked was her son happy in the relationship and she stated "Yes, he loves her and they have done well for themselves. He has done so much better with her than he did with his ex, but it's just something about her". She went on to say that her son does to much for his wife. Her son's life revolves around his wife and his children and he hardly has time for her (the mom) anymore. His regular visits have not been as frequent but he stills call to check on her and he still helps her with small bills at her house. The mom is married and stated that her husband is nothing like her son. He doesn't put the mom first. She is second to his family and friends... oh and her daughter's husband is the same way. (It sounds like a bit of jealousy and resentment to me, but carry on). Although she desired the treatment that her son gave to his wife, in her own marriage - she did not think her daughter-in-law was deserving. After talking for a few more minutes she still could not explain why the daughter-in-law was undeserving other than she personally did not think the woman deserved this treatment. I have adult children now and all I could think was: "Lord, don't ever let me think like this woman." Yet, I am not one to get into my children's relationship matters. I don't share my unsolicited opinion with my sons or my daughter or their partners. And as a daughter and daughter-in-law, I do not accept unsolicited opinions about my relationship with my husband. We are in this marriage together. I DO NOT desire my marriage to mimic that of those before me. Hell, some people are still in denial of the success (or lack thereof) of their marriage. I do not see any couple as relationship goals. We set our own relationship goals and we knock them out the park!
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