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One of the realest things my Mom ever said to me was "Two grown ass women can't live in the same house". I was 16 years old at the time and not much longer after that I moved out and never looked back. Let's face it, the statement is true in every way.
When you are an adult living with your parents - someone still has to be the child. That child will always be you. When you live with your parents, you have to follow the house rules or stand the chance of being put out. Even in the case where you split the bills evenly, you still must show a level of respect to your parents in their home. If you and your parents decide to rent/buy a house together (yeah that happens), you are still the child. There are just things you do not do while living with your parents. You better stay in a child's place. I decided early on this was not the lifestyle for me. Ironically, my Mom and siblings lived in my home, off and on for several years. My Mom understood this was my home and my rules. My ex and I paid the bills and I usually did not charge her any living expenses. The few times I did ask for help on the utilities, were failed attempts. I only required that she provide food for my siblings, which also was not consistent. I had kids of my own and now siblings to help raise - this grown ass woman had to begin "adulting" very early in life. When my ex and I split, there was no more options for my Mom and siblings to come stay with me. By that time, my siblings were headed into adulthood and they were about to get a "taste of reality". I was now the sole provider for my household and I couldn't fail in life. There was no "parent's house" for me to return to if I didn't get it right. If I struggled financially, I knew it couldn't be for long - so I have always had supplemental income, just in case. Now, I have an adult daughter who I have shared that quote with before: "Two grown ass women can't live in the same house". I let her know she can stay at home while she is enrolled in school, but she has to follow the house rules. She would still have a curfew and if she could not make it home in time, she would have to find somewhere else to stay for the night. Also, just because she is an adult, doesn't mean she can have company over to my house. If she decided to quit school, she would need to find a job and a place to stay within 6 months. Definitely, no longer than a year. NO ADULT will sit at my house everyday while I go to work. She didn't like any of those rules so she moved out and has stayed gone for over 2 years now. The rules are the same for my sons. However, the phrase for my sons is a bit different "I do not take care of adult men. Never have and never will. There's a verse in the bible that says, a man that does not work, shall not eat. And I believe in that!". I know things happen in life and at times, people may need to stay with their parents to get back on their feet. I am open to that, if any of my children need me. Yet, my rules still apply. And under my roof, they will forever be children. Now, they are just adult/grown ass children.
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